#YesAllWomen love Adam Lambert!
For the past 48 hours, I have been fascinated by the #YesAllWomen uprising on Twitter. The homicidal rampage of a 22-year-old man vowing “retribution” against women prompted not just the grief and outrage you would expect, but cheers of support from like-minded misogynists who scuttled out from under the rocks where they normally hide:
Women everywhere instantly recognized that the anger and sense of entitlement (that women “owed” this “true gentleman” sex) were not just the delusions of a sociopath, but are attitudes endemic in society. I am not saying that all or even most men harbor these thoughts, but what Elliott Rodgers expressed in his videos and manifesto are just a slightly more extreme expression of views held by enough men to feed a pervasive fear that all women know. This fear is something we all accept as “common sense.”
Hence was born #YesAllWomen, the hashtag campaign which has generated over one million tweet in its first 24 hours and is still going strong. The 140-character limit imposed a verbal discipline that gave rise to an outpouring of cogent, raw observations about the ways in which women are constrained and blamed, just for being women. Check out this Buzzfeed post for some examples.
While I was drawn into this unfolding virtual demonstration, my thoughts went (naturally) to our Adam and why women, especially “women of a certain age”, love him so… and are unafraid to say it out loud (and on blog after blog, for heaven’s sake!). I propose that this has everything to do with his being gay. Adam Lambert has an abundance of what we desire in a man — beauty, virility, intelligence, playfulness, humor and generosity, laced with enough insecurity, vulnerability and “dorkiness” to make him endearingly human — and, mirabile dictu, he is safe. We know he will never abuse or rape a woman. To be sure, there are misogynistic gay men, but Adam clearly loves women and is comfortable with his feminine side. Adam celebrates that everyone can dance and feel sexy to his voice, without judging.
Speaking for myself, I know that Adam’s being a gay man who appreciates and supports women is why I unhesitatingly handed him my heart!
Further reading: Washington Post: “#YesAllWomen: Elliot Rodger’s misogynistic ravings inspire a powerful response on Twitter.”
And if this isn’t a wake-up call…