“I am so sad for you women…” – Juneau responds
Re: Comment posted by Jojo, February 21, 2010
I am so sad for you women, really, it is great you love Adam but you have crossed some line into ridiculousness and utter fantasy. I too have a favourite idols, I read everything I can about them, follow their careers with great pleasure but they have not changed my life, they have not made my life worth living, they have not openned me up to a whole new level of existance sexually or otherwise. They are just people I take an interest in, they are a part of my life, NOT my life.
Your condescension is misplaced, Jojo. Have you read our book? Or our blog? We had full, rich lives already – loving families, successful careers, avid interests in politics, social issues, culture – and the last thing we expected was for some pop star, from American Idol of all places, to jump into some nonexistent hole in our souls. But there was something about Adam Lambert that compelled us to yield to the overwhelming emotion and pleasure he evoked in us. Being the rational, in-charge women we are in our everyday lives, we also were driven to analyze what was going on. Adam’s open-book persona inspired us to take the added step of owning and expressing our experience, sharing things that never make it into our scientific papers, editorials and policy analyses.
What a mistake that turned out to be! We have met intelligent, sensitive women and men all over the world who share our “insanity”. We have discovered new worlds – inner and outer – and surprised ourselves. For two women who have travelled extensively, read voraciously and thought we knew it all, this was beyond delightful – better than hormone therapy or botox. Did we cross a line into ridiculousness and fantasy? Yes! That is the whole point. When our inner censors commanded us to shove our Adam Lambert love back into a box, we bitch-slapped our Superegos – “I’m not listening to you this time!” – clamped on our Bose headsets and cranked up the volume on Master Plan (see Xena’s commentary). If only everyone could find something as fabulously fun to re-ignite their lives.